How to Grow your Style & Grow yourself


“Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak.” – Rachel Zoe, fashion designer

Personal style is timeless – it outlives all fashion trends and expresses your personality in one of the most nuanced ways.

But to grow your own sense of style, you cannot copy those who have already found their own personal flair. In the same way, you cannot try to grow yourself and your skills by doing what others do. Your journey is unique and the lessons you need to learn are yours alone. 

As Spring is getting into full swing and the flowers are finally blooming, read our guide to growing your style and flourishing yourself – ‘tis the season!

Growing yourself

The first step towards growth is getting rid of all the clutter in your head so that you may uncover which areas of your life require the most attention.

A great way to do this is a method called the Morning Pages. This concept was created by Julia Cameron and explained in her book ‘The Artist’s Way’. Almost like a more focussed form of journaling, the instruction is simple:

“Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. *There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages* – they are not high art. They are not even ‘writing’. They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind – and they are for your eyes only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritise and synchronise the day at hand. Do not over-think Morning Pages: just put three pages of anything on the page...and then do three more pages tomorrow.”

With your newfound clarity over the next few weeks, you will be able to decipher which aspects of your life need some work. And Level 10 Life is an effective strategy to implement this work. With this method, you divide your life into ten categories and monitor your progress as you go. The most common category combo is:

  1. Health & fitness
  2. Romantic relationship
  3. Family & friends
  4. Career
  5. Finances
  6. Personal development
  7. Spirituality
  8. Fun & recreation
  9. Physical environment
  10. Service & contribution

All you need to do is rate yourself out of 10 for each category at the end of each month for that month. You’ll be able to understand where you are progressing and where you need to put in more effort. Your monthly goals can then align with these ratings. 

And so, over just a few months, you should be able to see a trajectory that represents your all-round progress.

Growing your style

Once you’ve started the journey of improving yourself and you’ve got the confidence to match, you can start looking at whether your style represents this new you or not.

Queer Eye’s Tan France has compiled a 5-step method to identifying what your personal style is in a way that makes you the most comfortable in your own skin – and in a way that makes you happiest.

Here’s how:

1. Look to your own closet. 

Take out all of your favourite clothing items – the ones that make you happy. This might include your old faithful pair of Sebago boat shoes, your most comfortable hoodies and sweaters, or any items of clothing in which you feel like your best self. Once you have these out, think about why they make you feel so good and take note of anything they might have in common. 

2. Find fashion inspiration. 

You don’t have to go straight to Pinterest when looking for inspiration because, although it can give you excellent insight as to what is in vogue at the moment, it isn’t always realistic or affordable. Start simple – look at family and friends whose style you admire. From there, you can take to fashion magazines and follow style icons on Instagram as you refine your preferences.

3. Create a fashion mood board.  

Once you’ve gathered your inspiration and preferences, collect images (either on paper or digitally) and put together a mood board to get closer to your personal style. This way, you may find some overarching themes and vibes to look out for when shopping. 

4. Create a capsule wardrobe. 

A great tool for both style and budget is a capsule wardrobe – a collection of basics that you can mix and match to create effortless looks. Find classic and versatile pieces in neutral colours that fit your mood board and will go with everything. For example, a little black dress, a denim jacket, simple T-shirts, a brown leather boat shoe. 

5. Experiment with unique style choices. 

The pieces in your capsule collection will provide a foundation on which you can add other more unique pieces that fit your unique style – pieces that represent you inside and out. Don’t rush this process or be too harsh on yourself. Rather, enjoy the freedom of playing around with various accessories, prints, textures and cuts. And remember, don’t stop until you feel your best!

Spring into action this month with shoes to match from Sebago and craft the life you want for yourself.